Showing posts with label Friends and Family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Friends and Family. Show all posts

Monday, August 11, 2008

Our journey continues

The garden at St. John's United Church of Christ in Catonsville, Maryland

Barry’s life partner Rick and Barry’s family in Baltimore would like to express heartfelt thanks for the expressions of kindness, love, and support that they have received during this most difficult time. The memorial services in Jacksonville and in Baltimore were beautiful and moving tributes. Other memorial gatherings were held and masses, condolences and memorial donations have been offered by people who knew and loved Barry.

Barry left us with an understanding of how important it is to live life fully, to make the most of the time that is granted to us, and to cherish the people who are dear to us. Barry mentioned a passage from the Confessions of St. Augustine that he wanted to be shared at his memorial. A copy of that passage is included here.

“And friendship had other joys to captivate my heart. We could talk and laugh together and exchange small acts of kindness. We could join in the pleasure that books can give. We could trifle together. If we sometimes disagreed, it was without spite, as a man might differ with himself, and the rare occasions of dispute were the very spice to season our mutual accord. Each of us had something to learn from the others and something to teach in return. If any were away, we missed them with regret and gladly welcomed them when they came home. Such things as these are heartfelt tokens of affection between friends. They are signs to be read on the face and in the eyes, spoken by the tongue and displayed in countless acts of kindness. They can kindle a blaze to melt our hearts and meld them into one.”

- From the confessions of St. Augustine, Book IV



The garden plaque at St. John's

Sunday, July 20, 2008

Tales of Greece

We took a trip to Greece and Italy in August of 1996. The group included Rick, me, Doris - a co worker of Rick, and Betsy - an English professor friend of Doris. This will be divided into two blog entries since it will be so long. We'll do Greece first, then Italy.

The trip was three weeks. We spent two weeks in Greece, one in Italy. It would be longest time Rick and I had ever spent together due to my travel.

We stayed at the Hotel Attalos. Everyone there seemed to be named Kostas. At the time, it was a student hotel. A friend of Betsy's arranged the itinerary for us using one she used to take student groups to Greece. The hotel had very comfortable rooms. The elevator was small, but worked. It would hold two people or one with luggage. Rooms were air conditioned, but you needed to insert the plastic tag from the room key to turn it on. This meant the air conditioning wouldn't be running when you were not in the room. It turned out this tag was the size of a credit card. That made it easier to cool the room off.

Just as New York has the garment district, the diamond district, so does Athens. This area turned out to be the hardware district. It was also within walking distance of the Acropolis. An amazing location for such an inexpensive hotel. I recall it was only about fifty dollars per night. Since our trip started in Athens, took us to Rhodes then back to Athens, we stayed at the Attalos twice. The first stay we didn't have a balcony but the second time we had a rather large balcony. Each time, our rooms did adjoin.

The first night we were there, we took time to attend a traditional dance performance at the Acropolis and to see the light show performed nightly on the Parthenon. In a stroke of luck, my college roommate Rolf and his partner Dominic were also going to be there before they started their own vacation in Greece. I hadn't seen them in some time and had to come to Greece to see them. The dance performance was great. We all commented that the light show needed the Disney touch. The light show was set to triumphant music but the light show itself was nothing more than red to white and back again. It needed help.

There was a farmers market around the corner that we would frequent for fresh fruit. Betsy tried to buy a smaller amount than the vendor wanted to sell. His response was "no two, no two". We had to buy more.

Also just down the street was the most amazing bakery. All kinds of baklava and other pastries, but the one we thought most beautiful were birds nests of the shredded wheat type pastry coated with honey and filled with pignoles (pine nuts) that resembled birds eggs. We would often buy pastries to take back to the hotel or take then with us during the day.

Breakfast was provided each morning. We would all gather for the thick, Greek yogurt, honey, olives, feta and bread the hotel provided. We would often supplement with the fruit we would get at the farmers market. The peaches were always the best, but the apricots were very good also. We would also prepare for the day by reviewing our itinerary. Betsy, ever the teacher, would have prepared by checking out the Frommer's Guide. We teased her when we heard her say "Frommer says" but her information was always spot on and helped us better enjoy the day.

One of the best features of the hotel was the rooftop lounge and garden. Each evening, we would return to the hotel, put our card in the air conditioning slot, go to the rooftop and enjoy the view and revisit the day. We could see the Acropolis on one side, Mt. Lycabettus on the other. Mt. Lycabettus is the highest point in Athens.


At the base of the Acropolis is a neighborhood called the Plaka. It is the oldest neighborhood in Athens. Most roads are closed to traffic. It is a residential, restaurant, shopping, cultural and archaeological area all at one time. Some of the stores are quite nice, we bought some wonderful pottery there. There were also a lot of jewelry stores that Doris and Betsy enjoyed frequenting, particularly for silver and amber pieces. There were also enough low end stores that we referred to the area as the "schloka". There were so many cats wandering the area; we called them the "Acropicats"

We had several tours arranged. The first was to Delphi. As we were waiting on the bus, a woman got on the bus dressed in very body fitting clothing and very high espadrilles that laced quite far up her legs. She did not appear to be dressed for a full day of touring. Imagine our surprise when we found out this was our tour guide. It turns out she was certified in eight languages and was the best tour guide we experienced on the entire trip. I guess the old adage truly applies, never judge a book by its cover.

The tour of Delphi took us up multiple levels of the mountainside. We started in an ancient agora or market place. As we went up the mountainside there were more and more levels. There was the treasury building on one, the "navel of the earth" at another, finally concluding with a large amphitheater at the top.



The next tour was a three island tour. The first island stop was Aegina. It features a monastery that started construction in 1904. It is still under construction. It was magnificent. The next island was known for its pistachios. They were wonderful, but the pistachio ice cream was less than tasty. By the third island we were content to stay on board.

All the restaurants where we ate had wonderful food. Vegetables in Athens tasted better than any vegetables we had ever had. One memorable meal in the Plaka was for Doris' birthday. She had a whole snapper prepared Greek style at a restaurant called Miltons. All of our meals were excellent, but we ate and drank to Doris' health that night.

We're off to Rhodes next. When we boarded the Olympic Airlines flight to Rhodes, we reached cruising altitude. This was a smoking flight and most of the people on board not only smoked, they also had those very loud lighters. It sounded like everyone was lighting up with the old fashioned Zippo lighters at one time.

When we got to the hotel, we were about an hour late. The front desk person looked up our reservation and said "you're late". We thought it odd they cared about one hour. It turns out either Sue made an error or the hotel did. They had been expecting us on another day. Luckily they were able to squeeze us in that night and then moved us to better rooms the next night. The bathrooms in the better rooms always seemed to flood, but we dealt with it.

The ancient city of Rhodes dates from the time of the Crusades. The Crusaders Palace is one of the key historical sites here. The city walls are ancient. Imagine our surprise to find a hole cut into one of the walls and an ATM machine inserted into the wall. I don't think that would happen in the U.S.

At the waters edge there were lots of windmills. This always reminded me of the Walt Disney movie called "The Moonspinners". There were also lots of pastry shops with seating that ran almost to the edge of the water. There must have been ten of them in a row. It was fashionable to go in the evening for dessert, coffee or a drink. We soon discovered that most of the offerings from each place tasted the same.

One evening we ate at a restaurant that was on a second level. As we looked down on the town square below, it appeared as if we were sitting in an Epcot showcase of nations for Greece if one existed. Everything was so representative of Greece it looked perfectly suited for that. That evening was also the first and last time I ate smoked octopus.

We took a tour of Lindos, known for butterflies, pebbled floors and donkeys. The only way to the Acropolis in Lindos is by foot or donkey taxi service. Rick and Doris rode the donkeys, Betsy and I walked. We were constantly approached by elderly women selling laces and linens on the sidewalk. It was often difficult to walk without stepping on them. Most people walk back down as the donkeys know they will be fed and they sometimes move a little faster than people care for.

The oldest synagogue in Greece is in Lindos. We did take the opportunity to visit it. It was worth the time.

One evening as we were walking the shopping district, some china caught our eyes. To this day, Doris and Betsy say it took us until midnight to select our plates as they are all different. We still use them on special occasions.

As we explored the ancient city one day, we discovered a dressmaker that was a favorite of Dame Margot Fonteyn, the great ballerina. Doris bought a beautiful evening garment from the dressmaker. She still wears it still.

One of the interesting options at one of the restaurants we enjoyed was the chance to pick out the fish you wanted to eat that night. Talk about fresh.

At one point, Betsy purchased something where she made the comment that when she got home she would have to rearrange. Rick and I pointed out that we don't rearrange, we redecorate.

Rick and I took a day trip to Marmaris, Turkey while Doris and Betsy went to the Valley of the Butterflies. Upon our arrival in Marmaris, Rick and I went to the Turkish Baths. What an experience. Hot baths with a rubdown, sitting in the steamroom ending with a massage. Talk about being pampered.

Next we went to the street market and purchased spices, especially saffron. Rick's mom had requested a red leather purse and we found the perfect one for her. She loved it when we gave it to her.

Next, we went to look at carpets. We happened upon a carpet store run by someone with the name Attila. He invited us to sit down, enjoy sweet apple tea and then proceeded to show us hundreds of carpets. They were even bringing them in from his other store for us to review. We finally selected two, both still in our living room. Our previous cocker spaniel, Dulcie, enjoyed the tassles a bit too much as has Margo.

As we took a taxi back to the port to return to Rhodes, we ran into difficulty with the taxi driver. There was a torn corner on the U.S. five dollar bill we used to pay the fare. We finally convinced him it was ok to accept.

The mode of transportation to get from Rhodes to Marmaris is hydrofoil. The trip over was uneventful. The return trip was quite rough. The seas were difficult and the ride quite bumpy. I rather enjoyed it, but since most of the other passengers did not I kept my enjoyment to myself.

It was good we didn't spend too much time in Turkey. We would have never been able to figure out how much anything cost. The exchange was one U.S. dollar to 80,000,000 Turkish lira.

We returned to Athens and went to the Changing of the Guard at the Tomb of the Unknowns. It was a moving experience.

Our last tour was to the Temple of Poseiden. This temple is perched on high on a hill perched above the Aegean Sea. The view is spectacular. On the back of the temple, Lord Byron has carved his name. Not a good example for the graffiti artists.

This completed our trip to Greece. I know this was quite a long entry, but hope you enjoyed it. Perhaps a trip to Greece may be in your future.

Friday, July 11, 2008

More blasts from the past

As I was reviewing photos I came across these other childhood pictures that I thought I would share. The first is of Chris, Steve and me together. The second is at the annual Easter egg hunt at the church. I had just discovered an Easter egg lying in the grass.



The third, though, I think is my favorite. Caught in what could only be called a Fonzie pose, this one was taken in the living room of the house that we grew up in. Note the wallpaper, carpet, drape combination. The house was a row home at 31 Franklintown road just up the street from Grandmother’s house. The barrel backed chair behind me is still in Mom’s current home. The child’s rocker to the right was either Chris’s or Steve’s (there were two of them) and is probably still in my mother’s basement. The box to the right held a vacuum cleaner and is now in my sister Chris’s house and used for storage. My family tends not to get rid of things.

I’m not sure who put together this dapper outfit but it does cut quite a smart statement.

All from a pack of ketchup

Jim, Maddie and I were working on an implementation in Milwaukee years ago. We were sitting in the cafeteria having dinner, Maddie and I on one side of the table, Jim on the other. Someone was walking toward us with a tray about to exit the cafeteria. In one of those slow motion moments, the gentleman stepped on a single ketchup packet. All of a sudden, Maddie and I were covered in ketchup. The wall to the right was splattered with it. And somehow Jim’s tie ended up with ketchup on it also even though Jim’s back was to the ketchup packet. We sat there in stunned shock, then burst out laughing as we realized what had happened. The gentleman walks by innocently looking at us as if we were crazy and we’re truly astonished at how little ketchup it takes under force to make such a huge mess. We felt like we had been strafed.

In a basket that the team had sent me a few weeks ago there were lots of items reminding me of various trips and foibles that we had been through. There was an envelope that I opened up. It had a ketchup packet in it. I burst out laughing as I recalled this particular story.

Saturday, July 5, 2008

Ramp pictures

You may recall when I put the entry out the home visit, I made note of how beautiful the ramp was.

Here are two pictures of it. Thanks again Alan and Chris for such a great job.



Thanks also to Scott Albury for stopping by to take these. I've known and worked with Scott and the staff at St. Vincent's in Jacksonville for 28 years or so.

Good Friends and Neighbors

Our good friends Chuck and Ron have been so helpful to us. They live down the street and helped Rick get the house ready today. The day I went to my appointment with my surgeon when this all started, they had secured a wheelchair for us to use with very little notice. They have been regular visitors at Heartlands, have hosted Rick on several occasions for meals and have been a big help to us in many ways. We have been blessed with all of our wonderful friends, but neighbors that are also friends are a little different and very special.

Chuck walks their dogs frequently and has been keeping the neighbors updated on my progress. When he mentioned all the people that had been inquiring about me, I was surprised. It will be good to be able to greet them as Rick and I sit on the porch or as I attempt to pull weeds with a "grabber" from my wheelchair from the sidewalk. I won't be able to do most of the gardening I used to, but I'll do what I can.

Chuck and Ron are gracious hosts and excellent cooks and have a home perfect for entertaining. Rick is there as I type this enjoying dinner with them tonight. While I love to cook, I never seem to be able to carry off a dinner party with the ease they seem to come by naturally.

We still laugh (thank God) about an incident that took place at a dinner they hosted a number of years ago. The table was elegantly set with beautiful china and Waterford. Somehow, as I set down my wine glass, it wobbled and started to fall. We've all had those slow motion moments where we couldn't stop a thing. The wine glass fell on it's side and didn't break. The bread plate did instead. After a moment of stunned silence, they both burst out laughing. "It's only a plate. We've got more". What classy guys.

Of course, it was family china, a German manufacturer called Hutschenreuther where even www.replacements.com doesn't have a match to their pattern and they have over 286,000 china patterns on file. Check them out if you need a few any pieces to fill out your china, silver or crystal.

Chuck and Ron, Rick and I thank you for your continued friendship and support.

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Friday, July 4, 2008

Going Home

I will be discharged from Heartlands rehab facility on Tuesday, July 8th to return home. Home care and home rehab are in the process of being arranged.

Our neighbor, Molly, has cared for a number of family members and has a wheelchair and hospital bed. She has generously offered them to us for our use. Thank you Molly. Saturday, the bed will be put in the den where Rick and I believe I will be the most comfortable and where Rick can care for me best. Some furniture will need to be re-arranged, but I will have a view out the front of the house from the bed and there will be room for visitors. I'll be able to transfer to the wheelchair easily from the bed.

We're both very happy that I am coming home, but also realize that new challenges and learning opportunities will be a large part of the next few weeks. We are prepared to face them head on, working together as a team.

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Wednesday, July 2, 2008

There's no place like home

The home assessment visit took place today. Rick brought the wheelchair I will be using at home and with the assistance of the therapists got me into our car. That first transfer was a little rough, but things would get smoother as the visit progressed.

I had not been out of the facility since my last radiation treatment in late May or early June. The ride to our home was comfortable.

Once at the house, we have to back into the neighbors driveway for access to the sidewalk. This time, Rick and I performed the transfer out of the car ourselves and did it flawlessly. It was teamwork at it's best. I was so proud of Rick at that moment I was nearly overcome with emotion. What did finally make me break down was the realization that I was home. As Rick parked the car and opened the house, I needed to wheel the chair from the neighbors driveway, across the front of the house, make the turn and go down the side of the house to the entrance to the back yard (we have a corner lot). This gave me a chance to look at the entire garden and explain to the therapists what everything was. Rick has done a great job of keeping the gardens up and they looked beautiful.

We reached the garden gate. One of the therapists opened it. I felt as if I was Dorothy in "The Wizard of Oz" when she opens the door of the Kansas house in the sepia tinted section and it changes to the Land of the Munchkins. The ramp looked like the Yellow Brick Road.

Alan and Chris - the ramp is a work of art. Even the therapists were impressed. It rises out of the bed of Pentas (red flowers, blooms constantly, attracts butterflies) on the left, next to our dogwood, stops at a turning platform overlooking the fountain in the corner and the central bed under the huge live oak. This bed contains Ruellia (Mexican petunia, a constant bloomer in purple), Birds of Paradise, African Iris, Shrimp Plants, several varieties of Croton and a few others. The second part of the ramp takes me past the raised bed of impatiens that are a riot of colors - magenta with splashes of red-orange. The ground level of that bed is geraniums, New Guinea impatiens and some double impatiens. These are all in pinks, purples, salmons and oranges.

Once on the deck, I'm able to have access to the entire deck. Rick let Margo and Simon out and they ran over to greet me I stopped moving in the chair and just drank it all in. I was in Paradise.

It was time to get down to business. We went in the house. I was able to move everywhere easily except the laundry room (schucks) and parts of the kitchen. We will need to rearrange some furniture, but other than that, they deemed the house safe and appropriate for my return.

I was also able to access the front porch. Rick and I love to sit on what we call the "viewmaster" porch. We have outdoor fans in the ceiling and in cool weather we can sit out there and enjoy watching neighbors walking their dogs.

The exit from the house and down the ramp was flawless. Rick and I again did the transfer back into the car unassisted for the trip back to Heartlands. The same with the exit from the car to go back into the building.

It was a most emotional and exciting day. Rick and I functioned perfectly as a team. We know we have a lot ahead of us and that there will be challenges with my care. We will meet them head on. We are ready.

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Monday, June 30, 2008

Meet the family

Since I have mentioned many of my family it’s probably time to show you a picture of us all. This is a picture of Mom and Dad’s wedding day. The wedding was performed at our church, St. John’s United Church of Christ in Catonsville. We’re standing in the portico of Overhills Mansion. The picture was taken from inside the main entrance of this 1897 grand home.

After our congregation decided to move to Baltimore County from Baltimore City they purchased this 33 acre estate and used the mansion to serve as a church until we built the new church building. But more on all of that in anther story.

I remember thinking, I have never seen my mother more beautiful in this blue dress, or dad more handsome. All of us are dressed in our best clothes as we start off our lives together.

Back row: Steve, Dad, Mom, Charlotte, Chris
Front row: Barry, Chuck, Tina, Terry

Steve is the oldest and currently lives in Manchester, Maryland with his wife Debbie. Steve is the one who rode down on his motorcycle several weeks ago to visit. Dad is retired from both the Baltimore County Police Department and the Amtrak Police Department, having served 20 years with each organization. Mom did a heck of a job of raising such a large family. Mom and Dad are still living in the house that we grew up in. Charlotte is third oldest and lives in Atlanta with her husband Andrew and her family. She does mission work and is currently in Liberia. She has traveled between the United States and Liberia for a number of years. My sister Chris lives in Catonsville, the same town as my parents, and has just completed 38 years with the federal government. She has purchased a motor home and has chosen to take a well deserved retirement. She and mom drove down in the motor home several weeks ago for a visit.

In the next row is me. I am the middle child, currently living in Jacksonville with Rick, my partner of seventeen years. Next to me is Chuck the next to the youngest. Chuck is currently living in Florida. My sister Tina is six months younger than me so that puts her fifth in age. (Keep in mind, we're a combined family.) Tina currently lives in Westminster Maryland not far from McDaniel College, my alma mater. Tina was down recently for a visit. My youngest brother Terry works for the State of Maryland and resides with Mom and Dad.

Thanks to Chris for sending me this photo last year. It is a treasured keepsake.

Family drive to Southern Maryland

I believe I have mentioned before that I grew up in a large family that was the result of a second marriage for my mother and a second marriage for my step father.

Dad’s father, Pap Pap Schuhart, was originally from Southern Maryland – the Chaptico area. That is about two hours south of Baltimore. A couple times a year we would drive down for the day to visit relatives that still lived in the area. We would all pile into the station wagon – all nine of us – playing games along the way – the alphabet game, the license plate game, I-see-something. Now of course, kids can’t get in a car without a DVD, an iPod, or a cell phone.

Along the way we would watch for familiar sights. One in particular was the Wigwam Bakery. This bakery had a glass teepee out front lined with neon tubes. We never stopped but we always watched for it along the way. And of course, there were all the old motor lodge motels slowly falling into disrepair over the years – some advertising air conditioning, some advertising TV. They always had interesting names and we would watch for them each time. I think there was a Martha Washington hotel and of course others just named after local cities.

Aunt Lena lived in an old farmhouse and was a cousin of Pap Pap’s. Cousin Lottie was her daughter and lived in a newer home built on the farm. Cousin Lottie still lives there. The farm is no longer active and she will be celebrating her 91st birthday this year. When the farm was active they grew tobacco, corn, and beans. It also had a chicken house. It was the chickens that fascinated us. We couldn’t wait to get there, get some of the feed corn for the chickens, rub those kernels off and throw them through the fence to those birds. Of course, after a while our hands were completely blistered. We never learned and did it every time.

Growing up in Baltimore city and then Baltimore county, this much land was a luxury. We would run around all day long, walking through the fields, swinging on the swing, playing tag and just enjoying all this fresh air.

Aunt Lena would cook huge country meals. Of course chicken was likely to be featured at each of them. And at the end of the day we would drive home exhausted but invigorated from a day in the country.

Sunday, June 29, 2008

Outer Banks

For three years in the early 80s three groups of friends and I went to the Outer Banks in North Carolina to an area called Duck. Each year we rented a different home on the ocean and we had anywhere from six to ten people.

The first year we rented the cottage from Phil Tigan who was Assistant Director at ISD. We went Labor Day weekend which started the tradition. We were two houses back from the oceanfront but still with beautiful views of the ocean. We toured the area going to Kill Devil Hills. We enjoyed the local grocery store, the Mucky Duck, and enjoyed the company of good friends. We spent some time during the week exploring lighthouses. We knew there was one more lighthouse at Ocracoke Island. We got up very early one morning to take the three hour one way drive. When there, we discovered a breakfast place with the best damn coffee in the world. It became an annual pilgrimage to go back for that coffee.

One of the idiosyncrasies of this house was a sliding screen door out onto one of the decks that was difficult to tell if it was open or closed – at least for me. I must have walked into that door five times. Luckily it didn’t get bent too badly. We finally had to put a marker on the door so I could tell if it was open or closed.

That first year two members of our party were not able to stay the whole week because college classes were starting. They were going to leave late at night and unfortunately had spent the entire week not getting gas. So late in the evening we’re siphoning gas from one of our cars to the other so they’d at least have the opportunity to get to a gas station. Jim offered Brian some milk to coat his stomach in case he accidentally swallowed some gas. Brian, not understanding the intention said, “No thanks, I’m not thirsty.” We used the house hose which we had to cut and they were successfully on their way.

The second year we had a different group and a different home. A picture of the group is included here.



Back row: Jim, Mark who I have known since second grade, Judy, Barry – no comments on hair and glasses please
Front row: Dave and Joan who now have a family in Ellicott city and just returned from the Outer Banks this evening from their annual multigenerational family vacation, Nancy a friend of Mark’s, Kathy, and John.

One evening we were all in particularly good spirits and perhaps ended up making a little more noise than was appropriate. More on that later. We also discovered by accident why the tarheels are called the tarheels. It took us some time to get the tar out of the bathtub that accidentally got tracked in.

We would usually do group dinners with everyone sharing in the cooking and cleanup responsibilities. This particular year, one of our group had brought a frozen turkey. Unfortunately the evening we were to have the turkey the thawing of same bird had not yet begun. We gamely moved forward with the dinner slicing off cooked pieces of the turkey as we could and continued cooking that bird throughout the evening. We had a lot of cheese and crackers, stuffing with too much onion in it, and luckily no one ended up with salmonella poisoning.

The third year we had a smaller group and were closer to the ocean. You remember from the year two I mentioned that there would be more about the evening that we partied a little louder than we should have. When we arrived at check in, the real estate agent said, “Well, Mr. Whiteley, we had some complaints from your neighbors last year about the noise. Please be more careful this year.” We were mortified. They hadn’t said anything on our way out the previous year but waited a whole year to mention it to us at check-in.

I remember this particular house had a guest book, a bottle of wine, and a note from the owner Millie. We had friends who were going to be arriving late so we looked at the phone, and gave them the number on it in case they had problems finding the house. Our guests did arrive late and said that they had had difficulty finding the place. We indicated that we had been home all evening waiting for a call and they said, “Well, the number you gave us isn’t the right number.” We checked and the number they had was the one on the phone. We called the number ourselves and got an entirely different person. So in our note in the guest book saying that had enjoyed the vacation we included a section saying, “Millie, Millie, Millie, why is the number on the phone not the number of the phone?” We never did find out what the number was.

It was an election year and we were having a discussion around politics. We were trying to recall who George McGovern’s running mate had been in a presidential election and it was quite late at night. It was of course befoe the Internet and none of us could recall the information. We finally realized that even that late at night the public libraries in Hawaii would be open. So, we called the public library in Hawaii to ask and got the answer to our question. It was Sargent Shriver. Since all of us in attendance were Marylanders we were quite embarrassed that we didn’t recall that his running mate was in fact from Maryland.

Several of those that went on these various trips have continued vacationing in the Outer Banks to this day. So we started a fine tradition of memories with wonderful friends.

Most of our time would center around playing games, taking long wonderful naps, walking on the beach at night, and enjoying the amazing phosphorescence that would literally set the beach and the ocean aglow. Since there were so few houses in the area, it was almost as if you had a private beach. We would do sing-alongs, “You Are My Sunshine” being a particular favorite. None of us are good singers but it always sounded very good to us. We stopped taking flashlights on the beach walks for two reasons - to see the phosphorescence and with the flashlights we could see all the crabs on the beach. Somehow it was better not knowing that you were about to have your toe nibbled by a crab. This was of course before the area got built up and the stars at night would be magnificent. We could see the Milky Way and felt like we could see the world.

Saturday, June 28, 2008

Hooked on cruises

In 2006, our friends Jim and Craig suggested that we all take a cruise. The final group ended up being Jim and Craig, our friends Steve and Ben previously mentioned in the blog, Kristie, a friend of Jim and Craig’s from New Orleans, and Patricia, a friend from Jacksonville. A nice sized group – not too large and not too small. Now Rick had been on a cruise before but I had not. We weren’t sure that this was the type of vacation that we might enjoy, but given the group of people that we would be sailing with we knew it would be fun. We started planning months in advance and I kept a detailed notebook of all the plans. Of course, all my other friends were making fun of me for this but quite often would check with me for details.

We decided to sail on Royal Caribbean’s Mariner of the Seas departing from Port Canaveral – about 2 ½- 3 hours from Jacksonville. The itinerary was their western Caribbean offering - Port Canaveral, Florida; Labadee, Haiti; Ocho Rios, Jamaica; George Town, Grand Cayman; Cozumel, Mexico; Port Canaveral, Florida.

All of us selected different activities that we wanted to participate in. Now this may come as a surprise to many people. But Rick and I love parasailing. So in Labadee, Royal Caribbean’s private island, Rick and I did the parasail. In Ocho Rios we just wandered around the shopping area. We did a Nautilus submarine excursion in Grand Cayman.

In Cozumel we decided to go to the Mayan ruins at Tulum which border the Caribbean. Steve and Ben accompanied us on this particular excursion. Inside the city proper it was extremely hot but once you went to the edge that borders the Caribbean the view was spectacular and a cool breeze would blow over you.
Barry, Rick, Ben, Steve

Since this was the first cruise Rick and I had taken together we weren’t quite sure what to expect. We loved every minute of it. Our balcony cabin was perfectly situated. The Mariner of the Seas is a magnificent ship. The food was amazing. Incredibly enough, even though the average is to gain one pound per day I didn’t gain an ounce. I made sure that every day I walked the ship vigorously exploring all the different areas.

Of course the volume of activities they offer is infinite. One of the highlights of this particular cruise is a game similar to the Newlywed Game where they have three couples – a newlywed couple, a couple married about 25 years, and a couple married 50 years. You could not make up the answers that these people gave to the questions. It’s amazing how expensive Bingo can become on a cruise ship and how quickly those games move. You’re playing multiple cards at a time and you’re playing for high stakes money which adds to the pressure. And of course you’re always just one square away when someone else yells “bingo!” I don’t know how the women in those bingo parlors do it.

We all gathered for meals. Everyone did their own thing the rest of the time. Rick in particular enjoys an afternoon nap so on day two Ben started to ask if I had thrown Rick overboard because Rick hadn’t been seen in the afternoons yet. Walking the decks late at night was particularly beautiful – looking at the stars, feeling the ocean breeze just blowing over you. We often got into very spirited games of Uno with rules that never seemed to be printed on the box. I don’t recall winning but one game and that must have been a fluke.

Seven days passed much too quickly. Following is a photo of the happy cruisers. Seldom have I seen a group shot where everyone looks their best. It was a wonderful vacation that enabled us to share a lot of quality time with some very good friends. And while we have taken subsequent cruises, you never forget your first time.


Steve, Jim, Ben
Rick, Patricia Barry
Craig, Kristie

Friday, June 27, 2008

A great photo of Rick

A letter and photo arrived the other day from Peter Camp, Rick and Wendy’s cousin. The Camps, Aunt Polly and Uncle Nelson, lived in Connecticut where Aunt Polly still resides. Before the family started vacationing in Old Lyme they would go to Cape Cod and rent a cottage for the week on the bay side of the Cape. Ted, Rick and Wendy’s dad, was an avid sailor and had a wooden sailboat that they would use on the water. Uncle Nelson always had a camera around his neck and in this particular camera he used Kodachrome color slide film.



Apparently this particular type of slide film fades very little with time so the picture you are seeing here is of Rick at Cape Cod when he was probably seven or eight years old. I took this picture of the photo with my phone camera. The colors are so brilliant in the original photo Peter sent that I didn’t recognize at first that this wasn’t a professional, current photograph. So thank you, Peter, for sharing this priceless memory. Rick and I will treasure this photo.

Friday, June 20, 2008

Margo and Simon

I have been remiss in getting some a photo of Margo and Simon on the blog. They have been mentioned repeatedly but many of you have never seen them. Margo (the cocker spaniel) is named for the Bette Davis character Margo Channing from "All About Eve". We sometimes think Miss Davis' imperious temperament may be in Margo. Simon (the beagle) is named that just because we liked the name. They are both four years old with Margo being just a few months older.

Like most brothers and sisters, they both love and torture each other at times.

They both provide such joy in our lives even when Margo won't go out in the rain or when Simon decides to do a beagle bark much too early in the morning. (Click on any of the pictures for a larger version.)




Thursday, June 19, 2008

On the street where we live

While Jim was visiting this weekend he took pictures of the house, the gardens and our general neighborhood. Jacksonville is a beautiful city to live in and Rick and I are fortunate to live in a historic district called Avondale. The neighborhood is architecturally diverse, dating to the 1920s. After having lived in a building across the street from the first railroad terminus in the country in Ellicott City, Maryland - a town dating back to the late 1700’s - a house built in 1924 that is considered historic kind of amuses me. Our particular home is an American style bungalow that Rick originally purchased for the wrap-around porch and the enormous live oak in the back yard. It took me a number of years to translate northern gardening to Florida gardening but both Grandmother and Mom instilled a love of flowers and gardening in me. Each year as I plant our gardens I think of theirs. A few photos follow of the house with some focus on the gardens. The hydrangea on the corner is over twenty-five years old.

There have been times when I went crazy planting the front gardens – one year planting 450 four-inch impatiens in an intricate pattern. While beautiful, I will never do that again. This year I planted borders of red and purple miniature pentas, multiple shades of geraniums with spreading pentas behind them.

(Note: Click any of the following photos for a larger view.)






Here are some photos that show our back yard.




Around the corner from our house are the shoppes of Avondale. The shoppes include six different restaurants including one of our favorites, the Fox, which is just an old-fashioned diner with wonderful food. If you’re not there in time on the weekends you’ll be in a line of 15-20 people waiting to get in.

Another is The Brick which has the closest to Maryland crab cakes that I have found in Jacksonville. The remaining shoppes are a mix that appeal to the ladies who lunch or those looking or something unique from a local specialty shop.




The St. John’s River is a few blocks from our home but and many of the streets have direct access to it. These shots were taken from Edgewood Avenue which is a gracious larger cross street with a park-like median. At the river’s edge you are able to see downtown Jacksonville.




Over the recent years downtown has experienced a bit of revitalization with a number of condo and apartment towers being built and a few shots of downtown are included. All of this is just to give you a sense of where we live.



Mom and Chris update

I just received a call a little while ago that my mother and sister Chris did make it safely home from their motor home trip to visit me.

A message from Rick

Barry is correct. We will make the most of each day. A wheelchair ramp is being planned for easy access to the house. It will be built in the back garden area. We think that is an appropriate location so Barry can enjoy the garden as he enters and exits the house. Also, it will provide him the opportunity to make certain I am keeping the garden in shape!

I had a nice visit with Barry's mom and sister Chris. I understand where Barry gets his strength and courage. I am so proud of Barry's determination to gain as much mobility and independence as possible. He takes his PT seriously and I know he will reach his maximum medical improvement soon.

Each one of you has been a Godsend with your prayers and good wishes. Barry is truly blessed to have you in his life.

Rick

Mom and Chris

Mom and my sister Chris will start their trip back to Baltimore tomorrow. Chris has two Shelties, Cassie and Cricket. I think they have visited everyone in the rehab center and on several instances requests for visits for particular rooms were conveyed.

Margo and Simon have not been around lots of other dogs, so it was a great surprise (and relief) when all four played together beautifully. Whew


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Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Mom and Chris today

Each time Chris enters the facility with her shelties Cassie and Cricket she has met with requests to go to specific rooms. These are two very well behaved dogs. They did have the opportunity today to meet and play with Margo and Simon. Margo is always cautious meeting new dogs. Rick was very surprised that all four dogs got along famously playing well together in the back yard.

Mom and Chris spent a comfortable evening in Chris’s motor home and visited me this evening. We had a great time telling old stories and I’ll see them again tomorrow evening. Not sure what specific plans they have for the day tomorrow.

Aunt Naomi as Mae West

I had mentioned in an earlier post that Aunt Naomi had sent a picture of herself as Mae West. I thought it would be interesting for eveyone to include a copy of it here. Click the image for a larger version.